Monday, April 20, 2015

Top Ten Things I've Learned This Past Year

Since I just had a birthday, I decided to reflect on my growth over the past year.  I had to have learned something!  Here are the top ten things that I have learned over the past year.

1. A little compassion goes a long way.  

I've known this one, but I've put it into practice more this past year than before.  While to others it may seem like I'm enabling bad behavior, it's been a growing exercise to trust myself in "picking my battles."  Besides, who doesn't respond better to love than wrath.  
"Pleasing words are a honeycomb, sweet to the taste and healthful to the body." Proverbs 16:24 NAB

2. Eating clean actually does increase energy, mood, and good sleep.

I feel like I've known this one too, but the dramatic change that came with my whole30 made quite an impression on me.  That's why I'm going to do another one but cut it down to 10 days to just do a reset.

3. Do not become co-dependent on anyone.

There are things that Kevin does around here that I've never learned to do because...he does them.  I've gotten more into doing things myself that I would normally just pawn off to Kevin because I need to know these things...just in case.  This is also true of friends.  I have a tendency to attach quickly to people.  I become enamored way too easily, and while I'm not saying I go all out like Single White Female, I do depend on their advice and viewpoints more than I should.  Inevitably I end up getting myself hurt.  

4. As kids get older, their problems get bigger.

This is not rocket science, but it is a lesson I learned this year.  My counselor used to tell me that the limbo known as community college is so that kids can make mistakes in the comfort of their own training wheels.  I was still surprised when it started happening.  HA!

5. Ignoring is a great parenting tool.

I used to engage with the kids in arguments over all sorts of things.  I just had to learn to ignore some things instead of catching every little attitude and backtalk.  I'm not talking about letting a child disrespect me, but when they keep going and I know it's just going to get them in more trouble, the best thing for me to do is walk away and give them space while closing my ears.  ;)  This works best during schoolwork time.  I ignore their sass and just keep going with the lesson.  It works EVERY time.

6. I'm a sucker.

I've learned this only recently.  After being to a couple charity events, I discovered I want to help everyone!  Then I have giver's remorse afterwards.  I know...giver's remorse sounds awfully mean, but I get it.  I get swept away by an organization's message and mission, and I completely forget about all the bills, debt, daughter going to college this fall, and I want to give, give, give.  For instance, tomorrow I have to call up an organization and ask that they cancel my monthly giving that I signed up for because I should probably pay off my own chemo before signing up to pay other peoples' chemo.  I constantly tell God that if He would only let me win the lottery, I would help a lot of people.  

7. I'm an unorganized planner.

I think everyone thinks I'm super organized because I like to plan everything and have plan B's and C's.  Also, if it isn't on the calendar it isn't happening.  Just because I like filling in slots doesn't mean a thing.  I can't find anything in this place.  I try to declutter only to clutter it back up again because there's space.  This does not work in a small house.  I have tried to find my own system and figure out a solution for these five other unorganized people, but I fail every time.  

8. I am as engaged as I want to be.

This is also a recent lesson.  Kevin and I went to see a speaker last Friday night, and he explained how this works.  In every aspect of your life, you decide how much effort to put into it.  At times you might be 85% engaged in your marriage or 15% engaged...  same with your budget, health, fitness, parenting, ALL ASPECTS.  This really hit home to me.  He was talking about being present and aware of what was going on around you.  Ever since, I've been keenly aware of how engaged I am in the task at hand.  

9. No matter how much I think I can do something, sometimes I have to rest.

I hurt my shoulder a couple weeks ago at the gym.  I kept working out because so shoulder hurt.  Well, today I finished it off.  So much so that I asked Kevin to get me a sling.  He said no.  (Sorry, honey.  Had to put it in there.)  I'm whiny and cranky and I'm sure driving everyone crazy.  I looked it up on google and iced it on and off all day.  I figure I'll give it a week.  Until then, I'll stick with spin and zumba.  ;)

10. I can't control everything.

This has been a while in the making, but I think I'm getting really good at it.  There are moments when I slip up and before I know it, I'm back to my old ways.  But I figure it out and change it again.  It takes constant pep talks to myself that the world will not implode because someone is not doing something my way.  I would be lying if I said it didn't stink at times.  It's one of the hardest things I do on a daily basis.  

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

You Say It's My Birthday

It's my birthday tomorrow.  I normally do the random acts of kindness deeds on my birthday, but I'm not this year.  I'm too old!  I'll try to do a couple things because the kids are used to it, but I'm not going to set out for it.  Besides, tomorrow is a busy day already.  The world doesn't stop for my awesomeness.  ;)  
I'll probably write some old-fashioned letters to friends, pay some laundry machines, and I don't know what else.  I'm planning on going off the Paleo wagon, but not too far.  I'm hoping to keep it in check.  It'll be a couple of days though because I'm not celebrating with my parents until this weekend.  
Otherwise, I'm nose down and going through the motions.  It's never fun getting older.
Here's my new sweatshirt.  Kaelyn is always telling me that I don't take selfies correctly.  She told me to always hold the camera at an up angle, but I'm still doing it wrong apparently.  Anywho, don't you like my sweatshirt?  It's so soft, and yes, Kevin dried it correctly.  

Monday, April 13, 2015

Believe Big!

Kevin and I went to a charity gala Saturday night since everyone knows networking is our strong suit.  NOT! Our friends invited us.  The organization is called Believe Big.  They help provide holistic care to cancer patients.  It's an incredible journey.

Last year our friends told us how they had suggested alternative medicines to some friends of theirs who homeschooled.  We knew of them through the book club that the kids and I used to go to.  Their daughter has a rare form of cancer and has relapsed three times.  They suggested using mistletoe, which Believe Big promotes, and their daughter is showing a lot of progress and improvement, AND her cancer hasn't come back in 13 months.  They sat at our table and spoke their story to the room.  To know that our friends literally saved their friends'  daughter's life is amazing.  

To see God's work in action is so humbling.  How our friends came to know this organization, to present it to their friends, to it saving their daughter...God's hand.  I decided to purchase one of their sweatshirts that the saleslady raved about.  I'm so glad I did.  It's wonderful!  Here's a pic of us looking all swanky.

Thursday, April 9, 2015

"Peep" Show

Our county has an annual "Peep" show around Easter.  We normally read about it in the newspaper, but it's popularity has grown each year.  I kept hearing about it and seeing posts from friends who had gone, so we decided to take the kids.  It was free and fun!  The long line wrapped around the building was intimidating when we saw it, but it went fast.  I'm glad we stayed because I was all for going home.  I thought we would be waiting outside forever to get into the building.  Here are some things we saw.
While we didn't have to pay to get in, you could purchase votes for your favorite one.  The Goofy won.  I told the kids we should enter next year and stamp our family name on it even though we would make Kaelyn do the whole thing herself.  :)  There was a pic of Logan standing next to a kid with braces made out of peeps that his orthodontist office made, but I guess it didn't get saved.  I'm pretty sure this will become an annual Bucy tradition.  

Monday, April 6, 2015

Happy Easter! He is risen!

The kids wrote a letter to the Easter bunny and asked him to hide their baskets "wacky".
Marley's was in the pots and pans cupboard.  I didn't get a pic of it there.
Rory's was in the linen closet.
Logan's was at the top of the shoe closet.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

This Kid

You may remember our struggles with the kids' teeth.  Well, Monday I had to take Logan in for another cavity filling.  They gave me the work up when we got there.  It was going to be close to $300 because they were going to give him Nitrates Oxide, which is not covered by insurance.  

We got him in the chair, and the dentist asked if he wanted the happy air.  She then said that it was a small cavity, and it would be really quick if we didn't do the happy air.  I knew this meant a Novocain shot, so I talked it up to Logan.  He wouldn't feel sick after, and it wouldn't take as long.  He agreed to no happy air and saved us $125, and we were out of there within a half hour.  He was so brave and did beautifully.  I was so scared for him, but in retrospect, I never got happy air when I was a kid.  That's probably why my teeth are so bad now.  

The doctor said he did so well, and she was so surprised.  So Kevin and I decided he should get a little treat from the store for the money he saved us. He got some remote controlled something.  I'm so proud of him!

Monday, March 23, 2015

Stuff and Pics

I went to my first fundraiser luncheon.  Here's all the food they served that I packed up for Kevin.  ;)  It was really hard, but I ate the carrots off my salad and tried the cucumber.  It was fun.  The next one is in April for cancer, and this one is a dress-up one.  
I found sugar free bacon!  It was so good today.  I went 33 days without.  I can't believe it.
Lunch was good!
We went to my parents and got the kids to the playground.  It was cold outside, but since it wasn't in the 30's, they thought it was no jacket weather.  We made it to Whole Foods, who had the bacon.  We don't have one near to us here.  I have 13 days left of my whole46.  I'm getting a little bored with my meals, so I have to find some new recipes.  The bacon was good timing.  I should've gotten more than one pack!